It seems that everyone is looking for motivation. Whether it is to wake up in the morning, to go to work, or even motivation to have patience with the people around you. Most people have reached a stage in their life, where there is simply no reason to use up any energy to do anything. I’m sure like me, people might have sought advice from outside sources hoping to get hold of some information, something inspiring or insightful that will provide that lil kick to make them look forward to the next day.

In my personal opinion, motivation is something you have to find on your own. It is a lot harder, but is more rewarding. one of my philosophies is that we are all capable of self healing, if our bodies heal from wounds, we can also heal from “mental wounds.” I have personally been training to just think, change perspectives and reflect. As vague as that sounds, it has helped me deal with a lot of things. Every problem can be simplified into smaller approachable steps. So taking a step back, lookin at WHY you are unmotivated, you’ll be able to simplify the problem into much simpler tasks to accomplish, to lead you towards what you want.

for example, in my case, my lack of motivation came from mundane repetitions and predictable routines day in day out. And one thing that psychology has pointed out, is that we are built to recognize change. you enter a room, you immediately notice the temperature and other things, and after a while you become accustomed to the room and it is off your mind. this simple concept can be applied to your daily lives as well. If everything around you is unchanged, you become accustomed to it and you are simply not receiving enough mental stimulation. So the next step is, what can i do to spice things up? I avoid routines, do things in no particular order and keep trying new things, trying new hobbies, new foods, new movie types etc. It may not make you want to go to work, but the mental stimulation definitely provide a lil kick in your step, and things seem a lot bearable.

However, there maybe more or different variables in your equation and the key is to try and break it down yourself and simplify it as much as possible. simple problems are easy to solve. This practice of simplifying everything into smaller problems or parts makes every task seem like a breeze at least from a mental approach. give it a try!

Ok, so last night i walked passed a couple of girls as i left my apartment, and then i saw a red phone on the grass outside. So i picked it up walked back into the building hoping to catch em. but they had already entered one of the 8 apartments and i did not know which. so, i decided to call the last contact on the phone and try and find out where she lived so that i could drop off the phone. It was after the call i realized how creepy it might have sounded, some guy calling “claiming” to have found a phone and trying to find out where the owner lives. It sounds like something from a horror movie lol.

So even if i had the best intentions in mind, i kinda felt awkward because of how it appeared and it made me laugh a little. Regardless the guy i called didnt give me a name, so i didnt know which apt to knock on or even the apt number. I dont blame him lol. I decided to just call security to try and drop it off in the lost and found. luckily for me, i on the way back to my apt i heard some girl voices next door, i knocked and it was one of the girls, so i returned the phone.

Most of us were brought up to not trust strangers, but that was when we were kids. right now we are suppose to be able to evaluate a person on the fly from experiences to tag on a “trustworthiness rating”. A lot of our experiences come more from movies than personal experiences for most people. the little event got me thinking, what criteria do we use when we try to trust a stranger, especially if you are not interacting with the person face to face? Because face to face, the key things people use are stereotypes and attractiveness. but if you only hear a voice, what do you base your decisions on? it was just an interesting thought, can a person voice be reassuring? I think that maybe something nice to look into, psychological effect of voice….