well despite what some people may think, i’m always trying to better myself as a person. I think we all strive (hopefully) to better ourselves one way or the other. We all have those times when we feel a fire within us to achieve our inner goals and become who we can be …yada yada, like the new year resolutions to stop using swear words, or say yes or no more often, to be more confident etc. now my question is, why does it burn out so quick?

Won’t it be nice to be able to keep that self improvement fire burning. I strongly believe that we are not fully aware of what our brains are capable of. we are smart enough to trick OUR OWN brains into believing something esle, for example temperature variations at key parts of your body will alter the brains temperature regulation. however simple this maybe, its the concept that is extraordinary.

So why exactly can’t we keep our inspirations, new year resolutions, feelin of wanting to get the James Bond swagger after wathing Quantom of Solace? how can we mitigate the decay of inspiration, or better yet any feeling. its like we accept the stigma of saying “that’s just how i am” or sayings like “you cant teach an old dog new tricks”. ya there may be tricks or therapy that already exist to achieve out goals, but why cant this be something from within. i’m not really talkin about passions, cuz those burn forever, i’m talkin about the rest of us who want something but not the passion to achieve it at all costs.

Personally, i think the key thing is retaining the value of  the goal. That is  the difficult part, because as we begin to strive towards the goal and meet obstacles, we begin to question the value of the goal or change. and once that happens, the costs begin to overshadow the benefits which may eventually lead to a waved white flag. It then comes back later when thoughts are triggered of life with the change and u feel inspired once more and the cycle repeats again. i’m sure this isn’t new to anyone. The truth is that no one likes “hardship” and we always look for the easiest route out of it (its our survival instinct) and the route is give up.  Its so easy, because its affectin noone but u, and usu noone else will find out…so easy. but lol we are the one’s losing. So i believe the key now is to learn to associate “hardship”, no matter the form, with something else other than a painful step to a goal.

so what i’m trying to learn is to associate my feelings with things that wont force my brain into a defense tactic, because the only thing u should be fighting are the obstacles not your will…the rest is just style freein’! (makes no sense but sounds good, deal with it)

I just took a personality class and was amazed at how abstract it is to define what is responsible for a person’s personality. funny to say, personality falls in the same category as love and life, in terms of the numerous ways at looking at it from a psychological point of view. you’ll be amazed at the different theories that exist to define personality. there are theories that define a person’s personality as being related to the time of birth (astrology), numerology bases a person’s personality off a given number calculated from their birth dates, the famous Freud explained personality based off his theory of the id, ego and superego and the psychosexual stages of development, in Japan there is the blood type theory, where they believe a person’s behavior is as a result of their blood type, there is even a theory that bases personality off a person’s body shape ….this is just to name a few. so there is no clear cut explanation for personality and most theories are a reflection of a single person’s idea…Even all the personality tests that exist don’t define personality or tell you why you are the way you are. they just identify patterns and associate you with a group based off distinct factors like introversion, feeling etc if you’d like a quick test go here, the results are quite interesting and you may actually agree with the explanations in your assigned group.

So why are we the way we are, what are the key factors, is it too far-fetched to believe that the position of the sun and moon during our birth has something to do with our personalities?

well personally, if i had to chose any ones theory it would be that of B.F. Skinner. he believed that each person’s personality is as a result of conditioning and reinforcement. in other words, your personality comes from either imitating or being reinforced for any given behavior. this is an over simplified explanation though. i don’t entirely agree with him and if i had to come up with a theory this would be it:The brain at birth is forever working, like a computer. it is constantly receiving information from your senses and trying to draw connections and associations between objects being observed. and depending on both environment and biological factors (such as the different level of hormones and enzymes needed for brain activity) each person comes up with different connections which i like to call formulas and every time a variable is passed in from the senses it passes through these created formulas which are unique to each individual and are dependent on past experiences. in other words you can think of past experiences as constants in the formula. these formulas give a given result and these characterize a person’s behavior. that’s how i view personality in a nutshell. still refining it, who knows maybe your kids will be learning this new theory in the future…laugh now but i called it

One thing i can say i believe in is balance. it may be something that can also be analyzed as a psychological fabrication to further give purpose to otherwise unexplainable things. and maybe the connections we see between events is simply because we want to see that connection. but either case, if it really is just the way of nature or a coincidental connection of events i’m sure many of you will agree with me. there are patterns in nature and many examples i can give to back up my principle of balance. and the best case i can give right on the top of my head, is the relationship between the number of predators versus prey as you go up the food chain.

that system was built for balance. many other examples exist, but now the questions is, can we project that idea as a natural phenomena that also applies to events that occur in our everyday lives. can we say that good and evil balance out? many might say no, but balance may not always establish itself at a single point. in a vast world, an action  at one end could spark a counter event at the other end. and the balance may not only be spacial, but could also be temporal, where balancing events are separated by time. now can this be proven, no. can statistics back this up, no because there’s no direct proof linking the events.now why should we ponder on something that can not be proven, well because it is an idea and every idea has worth and this idea makes me handle negative events with optimism for the upcoming balancing event, u should try it

I personally look at destiny as a mental fabrication or a way of coping with the unpredictability of life. it is a conception or belief we use to give meaning to our lives. a belief that our lives have already been written in stone and irrespective of the current situation it does not deter the future from happening or simply an excuse for not trying. i chose not to believe in destiny because i prefer to believe i have control over what become. i feel that the belief in destiny places people in an illusion that demeans their actions as irrelevant and having no consequences towards achieving anything more or less from what their destiny is. one thing i hate seeing or hearing is someone saying, “oh i guess it wasn’t my destiny” and just like that the person has killed all hope from overcoming his/her obstacles. here ’s a perfect example look at this guy in video:

now when this guy was either born with no arms or lost his arms, do you think he accepted that he would never play an instrument. it only became an obstacle and yet that didn’t stop him from learning something that he is has a passion for. ya sometimes it may be too hard and yes we might not be able to even accomplish it in the end, but i feel that we owe it to ourselves to at least try and overcome before you chose to accept it as “fate”.there is no such thing as destiny… there is no limit for me or for you, only different sized road blocks